Saturday, July 14, 2012

The Top 8 Things I Learned After My Freshman Year of College




1. Despite all the internships, research projects, study abroad trips, etc. most people don't really know what they are going to do in the future when they are 18 or 19 years old. So it's okay if don't have everything completely figured out.

2. People deserve a second chance. But they do not deserve a third.

3. People cannot be divided up as 'good' or 'bad'; some people just carry around a lot of baggage, which makes them act the way they do. They may have more emotional scars but that does not necessarily make them bad people.

4. College academics are not always fair. Intellect paired with a sub-par work ethic can triumph hard work alone.

5. College relationships:

  • The casual hookup 
  • Friends with benefits 
  • The married couple
  • The on-again off-again couple 
  • The non-exclusive 'couple'
  • The normal couple (~1% of population)

6. Avoid having the "If only I knew then what I knew now" mentality. If you knew everything then you wouldn't learn anything new to grow as an individual.

7. Time management = Key

8. Sometimes the best thing you can do in a difficult situation is to not care so much about it and move on.



Friday, August 12, 2011

The Top 8 Things I Learned (And Re-Learned) The Summer Before My Freshman Year of College



Number 1:
It's okay to let your mind play tug-of-war between feeling overly ecstatic about college and nostalgic about leaving family and friends behind. It doesn't make you an emotional wreck for having mixed feelings about going to college. It just means you're human.

Number 2:
Everyone else is feeling the exact same way.

Number 3:
There is a significant difference between the people who are "fun to hang out with" and friends who truly matter to you. The latter half are the people you will want stay close with because they stand out from other friends for a reason.

Number 4:
On the contrary, it's okay to grow apart from people, too.

Number 5:
Some people need to grow up...

Number 6:
It is impossible to say "I love you" to your parents too much.

Number 7:
There will come a point in the summer when everything --leaving home, living on your own, etc.-- really hits you. And it will hit you pretty hard.

Number 8:
College is the time to do everything big. Just because you're a freshman again doesn't mean that you should aim to get by by playing small. (See quote below).


"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."


-Lizzie


Tuesday, April 12, 2011

High-School Sentimentals


For quite some time I sat along the sidelines. It was easier that way; to watch everyone as I sat in my self-created region of stability. I was a wallflower at best, waiting for my chance to shine.

My transition to high-school transformed me from a big fish in a small pond to a small fish in an ocean of other intelligent, more talented fishes. It wasn’t long until my doubts and insecurities overcame me. Eventually I just withered away from anything that made me feel vulnerable…You know that burning feeling you get when you know the right answer to a question and someone else in class gets it right - not because your teacher didn't call on you, but because you were too unsure of yourself to raise your hand? Well, I felt that way a lot in my first year of high-school. And it was definitely not limited to the classroom. I actually spent a lot of my time being unsure of myself. I felt like everyone was watching my every move, and if I didn't say or do the right things then people wouldn't want to take the time to get to know me. I coped with this fear the only way I knew how, and that was to not do nothing at all.

When I look back at my freshman year of high-school it drives me crazy to think about how comfortable I felt by not putting myself out there, not talking to new people, and not being the best person I could be. Yes, I felt more safe by living in my own bubble, only to emerge if I wanted to impress others or follow the crowd, but I wasn’t getting anything out of it. Soon enough my dissatisfactions got the best of me and one day it just clicked: I have big dreams and there was no way I could achieve any of my goals if I just sat in the corner.

By sophomore and junior year I started speaking up. At the end of my junior year I became heavily involved in the community. Not only did I discover my passion for helping others but the more activities I did the easier it became for me to open up to others. I also realized that talking to people wasn't as scary as I first thought! It’s second semester senior year and I ended up accomplishing more in high-school than I could ever imagine. There was never a time when I wouldn't have been able to be a leader or give speeches, but there definitely was a time when I would have been too afraid to do so. As I approach the end of senior year my only regret is not opening up sooner; I can't help but think that I might be making too many new friends too late. To be honest, the first thing that comes to mind when I think about all the amazing people in my senior class is how I wish I knew each and every one of them just a little bit better. But the past four years have served as a learning experience as to why I should never limit myself from reaching my maximum potential…no matter how scary or uncomfortable it may seem at first.

Now that I'm committed to college my best advice for underclassmen is to not wait so long to open up and figure out what you really want. And chances are, what you really want out of high-school is not for other people to think you're ‘cool’ or anything else quite so superficial. My advice is to make the most out of high-school in every possible way. Push yourself to step out of your comfort zone and explore your interests. Because who knows? You might make some unlikely friends and you just might discover a new passion in life. High-school comes and goes in the blink of an eye so it is imperative to make it count.

CARPE DIEM

God Bless,

-Lizzie

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Contemplating

"If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you."
                                                                                                                                  John 15: 7

I remember one night I prayed to God and asked him what he wanted from me. I asked him what he wanted me to do with my life to better serve him. I expected some sort of response about helping people in need, but I heard, saw, and felt...nothing. It scared me. I always thought that the word 'desolation' could be defined as not going to mass one day or forgetting to pray at night, but that night I learned what it truly meant to be in desolation from God.


The next night, and many nights after that, I asked God to bring me closer to him. When I asked for this I prayed from my heart and not through words. I guess what made this prayer so important to me was the fact that having a close relationship with God is the aspect I value the most in life, and the one thing that I want the most.

As my faith slowly takes on a more significant role in my life, I can truly say that God has answered my prayers. There are still some days I struggle, but these days are becoming less frequent because more often than not, I let my faith prevail over the little things that weigh me down. Back to the quote from the book of John, I don't believe that God will give you everything you wish for...but I sure do believe that he will give you everything you need.

Sunday, July 25, 2010

NOLA Service Trip: The Reflection


It's been nearly two weeks since I returned home from New Orleans. I've been incredibly busy with Red Cross and cheerleading, but in the midst of it all I was blessed with the opportunity to publish an article about my service trip in the Tacoma News Tribune.

Reminiscing over the events that occurred in New Orleans brought to mind several joyful memories, as well as some harsh realizations. For instance, the story about the home owner's daughter who gave birth to twin boys - just think, those newborn twins have to be raised in a 300 sq. ft. living space until the rest of their house is complete. That's not okay. It's not okay for anyone to be subjected to such living conditions.

But the one thing people need to understand is that Shirts Across America does not build houses for people who never had a home. Shirts Across America rebuilds homes that were destroyed during the hurricane. The objective of organizations like Shirts Across America is not to give people what they never had, rather, to fix what is rightfully theirs.

So at the end of my trip I can honestly say that I have a deeper appreciation for everything in my life; I smile more often, and I have yet to complain about doing the dishes. Part of this is because there's nothing at home that compares to the physical exhaustion of the work that I did in New Orleans, but part of this is because I finally understand how blessed I am.

I never have and never will have to live in poverty like too many people in this world do. I'll never have to worry about having a roof over my head, or witness my life get washed away by a hurricane. God has been too good to me so it is my responsibility to reach out to those who face exceptional hardships.

I'm so grateful to have had the opportunity to help rebuild the city of New Orleans.









If you've been inspired enough by my blog to help make a difference in New Orleans, then please visit one of the following websites:

www.shirtsacrossamerica.com

www.stbernardproject.org



Thank you for following me on my journey in New Orleans. And hopefully you, too, will find peace by participating in some area of service. God bless.

-Lizzie


"If you want happiness for an hour -- take a nap. If you want happiness for a day -- go fishing. If you want happiness for a month -- get married. If you want happiness for a year -- inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime -- help somebody."

Sunday, July 11, 2010

NOLA Service Trip: Day 6

Well, today is officially our last day in New Orleans. I cannot believe how fast time flew by over the past 6 days. But at least we got to end our festivities in New Orleans with an incredible church mass, group reflection, and one last night of goofing off at the camp.

One of the major highlights on the entire trip was going to church today. For starters the church was the first African American Roman Catholic Church I have ever gone to in my life. To be quite frank, I never knew such a thing existed. That may sound a bit naive on my behalf, but I have never gone to a Catholic Mass where there were actually people who looked like me. However, race is not the most important issue here. The most significant aspect about the church was its vibrant energy. We walked into the church and were blasted with hospitality from every person in sight. It was kind of obvious that our group was not from New Orleans, so the church members and the priest took it upon themselves to make us feel as welcome as possible.

We sat down in our pews and talked to the parishioners around us. When I looked around the church I figured that the closest image I could come up with to describe the style of the church would be a mix of a Roman Catholic cathedral and an African jungle. The floors were made of white marble, while the altar and the chairs the priest and altar serves sit on were wooden and had African images carved into them. To the left of the altar was a beautiful baptismal fountain, and to the right of altar were pews reserved for the awe-inspiring gospel choir.

Mass began with a warm welcome from the announcer to everyone in the parish, but he made a special shout out to "our visiting neighbors from Seattle". As the announcer kept talking, his words soon turned into song and suddenly I could hear the piano and drums playing beside the gospel choir. The priest and altar servers walked down the aisle while the church was still in song; that was when I knew that this church had something special about it. The altar servers wore white robes with a green shawl with red and black stripes on it, and  the priest's entire outfit was green with the red and black stripes. Everything from the colorful attire to the portrait of an African Jesus on the wall added to the vibrant atmosphere of the church.

We sang most of the prayers during mass as opposed to just reciting them. There is something about singing that makes you feel more connected with God and the people around you. I, for one, was definitely empowered  by all the singing we did during mass. Back home, whenever the whole church was required to sing a hymn I always took that as my cue to mouth the words of the song so no one, not even God, could hear the atrocity of my singing voice. But things were different at this church. I did not feel vulnerable or  to embarrassed sing. There is something about the unity and spirit of the church that gave me the ability to step out of my comfort zone. I felt more welcome at this church than I ever had at my own parish. We all felt so comfortable and at home at this church.

The best part of mass definitely had to be the gospel choir. Every member of the choir sang with such soul and passion that it made it so easy for people in the pews to want to join in song. The choir director was exceptionally amazing; with an extraordinary voice and an unparall energy, I could not tell if that was really the choir director or Jennifer Hudson. Although we sang most of the prayers during mass, singing the Our Father was the most unifying experience. Holding hands, swaying side to side as we sang the prayer made me feel so connected with everyone in the room and with God in a way that I did not know was possible.

The homily was great and I could clearly understand every word that the priest was saying. Usually people get lost during the homily but there was not a single person in the room that did not feel the words coming out of the priest's mouth going straight into their heart. The priest was Caucasian but he had no problem communicating with the predominantly African American parish. The homily focused on the Good Samaritan story and how it is important to help not just the people who are in need but the people whom you dislike; the people that annoy you or make you feel frustrated. By the end of the homily I realized that you cannot just focus on exclusively on helping the poor or sick, being a true Christian means lending a hand to those who have hurt you as well.

After mass we ran into a lady that knew the family of one of the girls I cheer with. This just goes to show how small the world really is and how connected we are. When we left the church we walked around the city for a little bit before eating lunch. We visited Loyola University of New Orleans, as well as Tulane University. Both campuses were extremely gorgeous, and I might consider on giving Tulane a last minute spot on my college list.

When got back to camp we had our last dinner followed by a group prayer and reflection. At the reflection we went around the room recollecting our favorite moments on the trip. Some memories were comical, while others were a bit more sentimental. It was a beautiful way to end our last night together. Afterwards, three other volunteers and I went outside and talked in a circle with food and games. Not only have I made some incredible memories on this trip, but I have made some great friends as well.

I really do not want to leave. I honestly wish I could stay here just a little bit longer. This has been one of the best experiences of my life and I will never forget my week in New Orleans.

Saturday, July 10, 2010

NOLA Service Trip: Day 5

It is hard to believe that today was our final day of work. Tomorrow we are going to go to church and tour around the city; we catch our flight back to Washington on Monday morning. Instead of breaking up into our usual teams our whole group went up to Chalmette to work on a house together. When we got to the house, most of us spent our time taping and mudding dry wall. This just means that we had to spread "mud" along the cracks and seams of the walls in order to make the surface more smooth. Mudding was most definitely the easiest and least time-consuming job we have had all week.

We continued "mudding" for two hours when it started to downpour, and lighting began to strike. It was a unique experience to work in a house during a thunderstorm, and the chaos proceeded when an ambulance and fire truck pulled up into the neighborhood. Everyone in the room was frightened and slightly confused when the ambulance parked in front of our house. When the paramedics rushed out of the vehicle a a little boy came running around the corner and said: "I'm Tony, and my mom is having a baby!"

Apparently the home owner, his daughter, and her kids were living in a shack in the backyard until the volunteers were finished rebuilding their house. Before the home owner and Tony had left for the hospital I got the chance to talk to Tony for a little bit. Tony had light blond hair, fair skin, and the most fascinating blue eyes I have ever seen. He was very small for his age, and quite frustrated as he told me how the paramedics completely destroyed his wooden playhouse in order to make room for his mom on the stretcher. Tony also told me that his mom was having twins and that he was excited to become a big brother. When Tony and his grandfather left for the hospital I went back inside to finish the rest of the mudding.

Soon after, our AmeriCorps supervisors took us out to eat Sno- balls during our lunch break. When we were done eating our supervisors took us to their living quarters. There were two stories in the house and ten volunteers lived on each floor. The inside seemed very cramped but the house had an incredible sense of community. I could definitely picture myself living in one of those crowded rooms someday as an AmeriCorps volunteer.

It didn't take long for us to finish mudding today. We got back to camp almost two hours early and got ready to go out for dinner. The restaurant was lovely and had the most amazing food we have eaten on this entire trip. Laughing around the dinner table was a nice way to end our last day of work, but it also served as a reminder that our trip will unfortunately have to come to an end soon.